Be the Lawyer & the Judge

We sometimes get to a new place and then start to make new friends. Sometimes the first set of friends we make will always warn us against 'palling' with another set of friends. Sometimes we go with their advice, and sometimes we do not. Sometimes the advice of the first set of friends is right and sometimes they are dead wrong. But one thing is certain  we're sure to take sides. (Which is the aim of the warning against 'palling' with the other side anyway.)

Sometimes, the main thing is that these first set of friends are imposing their perception and opinion of the other party on us which may or may not be right.

We all have different perceptions and opinions we have on the different people we meet everyday of our lives. Some may not like my unsociable attitude and others may just see it as the quality they require in a friend.

Some of us want snitches as friends, others want unreliable people. We all have different ways of seeing things and different ways of putting these things to our advantage.

Sometimes our friendship is based on a shared common good (or a shared common bad), it is sometimes permanent (or temporary), and sometimes it is based on class (and sometimes classless).

Sometimes people spend most of their time judging and thinking up ways of arranging the lives of others, while theirs is in complete shambles. How does an alcoholic preach against taking alcohol with a bottle of 'Guinness Smooth' in hand and four more bottles on the table (maybe he can pull the stunt).

Even though there is nothing wrong in getting the opinion of others (while there may also be a lot of wrong with that), we should be both the lawyer and the judge.

Advising oneself (based on observations of others one has collected or based on one's own collected observations) and being one's own judge is probably the best favour one can do for one's self. After-all you should trust no one but yourself. Its a crazy world we live in where the fish eats fish to survive.

Never take sides based on the opinion of others. Observe-Orient-Decide- & Act based on your own findings.

NB: This is also my perception and opinion.

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Remember to Be Calm

Be calm and everything would take care of itself. This does not mean you should not put efforts to ensure everything works out fine, but be calm.

Remember you did not request to be born, you were born when God felt the right time to launch you to earth had come.

Remember you did not request to have all parts of your body during creation, God decided to bring you out the way he wants.

Remember you did not consciously ask to be sent to school, you were sent to school because your parents felt the time for you to start school had come.

Remember, God has a purpose for putting you where he has put you. Remember also that you would not progress if you choose not to want to progress, also remember that prayer alone does not guarantee progress, prayer + effort does.

Put at the back of your mind that even if money grows on branches of trees, you still have to put in effort by going up the tree to pluck it or devise means to bring down the money from the branches.

So be calm. Even though you are out of school with no job, put in efforts to get a job or innovate or start something, there is a reason for everything. But stay calm.

Do not be desperate to match your mates who now ride high-end cars or live in posh places. Remember, not everyone has the opportunity you presently have. Desperation breeds jealousy, jealousy breeds hatred and hatred soils the heart.

Remember, there is time for everything, a time to laugh, a time to cry, a time to say hello and a time to let go. Make sure to know the time to let go and the time to remain, but do not forget to be calm.

Remember to be calm when making important decisions. Decisions made out of desperation may have negative effects in future, and sometimes positive effects.

Remember to be calm when you face difficulties, things can still get better and be calm when good times come, things may get bad. Be calm at all times.

Remember that at the end of the day, only very little things would matter, and if you are calm the little things that matter would be yours.