Sometimes,
we want to do some things but we are stuck. We then need the help of
others to get us out of the situation. Sometimes we are left hanging,
other times they come through. In the times when they come through, these
helps sometimes lead us to greatness and we feel we are forever
indebted to the 'renderer' of this help and constantly remind ourselves
to pay back at the slightest opportunity we get.
Even
though we are indebted to them for their help at some point when we
needed them, we should bear in mind that it isn't an opportunity for
us to enslave ourselves to their whims.
Because
a person helped us when we lacked should not make us stooges to the
person.
Of
course we should be grateful for favours but there comes a time when
we need to realize that we are taken for granted.
Its
a dog-eats-dog world we live in, everyone is fighting for his and her
own pocket so everyone is out to make a quick buck fast to live large
before they grow frail and end 6 feet below.
Some
can go to any extent to get their quick buck including taking
advantage of past relationships to the detriment of the other party.
I
believe paying back for help should be at the discretion of he who
got the help not at the discretion of the renderer (unless of course
there is an agreement between the two parties).
Renderers
of help should also realize that your helping someone in his time of
need does not put him at your mercy forever.
Karma
works in a way that evil begets evil and good begets good,
but know that it is also right
for good to beget evil and evil to beget good after re-evaluating a
relationship.
Know when to forget the favour and love that others have shown, your continued existence, of "being" may depend on it.
